I am currently reading a book called The Best Yes by Lysa Terkeurst. This is a curriculum that my small life group at church is doing. It is a really good book that is designed to help us learn to say our best yes by saying no to things that are not our best yes. She calls this “the disease to please”, and I seem to struggle with this. I say yes because I don’t know how to say no. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or inconvenience them, so instead I inconvenience myself. By doing so, as Lysa describes in the book, I tend to suffer with an “overwhelmed schedule and underwhelmed soul”.
What does that mean? It just means that I (we) sometimes forget that we can only stretch so thin. When we over schedule ourselves, it becomes overwhelming. When I think of an underwhelmed soul, I think of overwhelmed emotions. I have been feeling like that a lot lately. So I haven’t been taking the time to get to my blog. This seems to be what has taken a back burner in my life. I struggle with time management.
Time management is so important for many of us. I like to make plans or lists of tasks. Others can just fly by the seat of their pants. I have so many things I need to do each day, and I do some of this and some of that, ending up feeling like I didn’t do much of anything. This leaves me feeling stressed out.
So this moma is taking back her life. I will be using my planner again. I will make a specific schedule, so to speak, for each day. I’ve been told many times, if you don’t put it on the calendar it won’t get done. I know this to be true for my life. My plan is to pencil in each thing I need done for the day, from getting the kids dressed to doing the laundry. I am going to try to follow this “schedule”.
On the flip side, I am a person who becomes easily stressed out if my plans don’t go as planned. I spoke with a mother of four boys in my life group, and she said she used to be like that until she learned she just had to let it go. If it gets done, good. If not, oh well. It is keeping her sanity. So, if I find myself still overwhelmed with my “schedule”, I will try her method and just go with it. With so many children, it can be hard to stick to a schedule, and I don’t even have a job outside the home. So I will see how it goes. If any of you have suggestions how to tame my chaotic schedule please leave a comment below.